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The ability and skill to manage a household and nourish your family is extremely important. Hopefully, in the wake of financial crisis and our record setting fat asses, this is really evident.

re: some basic cooking skills – no argument. But that is not, IMO, what we are addressing.

And not knowing how to determine if food is spoiled is dangerous in my book. That’s right. And knowing that some fermented foods are OK to eat, like some cheeses, and others are not, like rancid meat, is important. And, assuming that we will continue to default to women as the source of nourishment in most families (and, we should), then it is important that they learn these skills.

37Ramble August 9, 2012 at 6:11 pm
The reason I said that everyone should learn to cook is because of the average age at marriage. A guy who goes to college is not likely to marry before 30. That’s nine years after leaving school, and if he doesn’t live with his parents, he needs to prepare meals to eat healthily and economically.

I don’t disagree with this basic idea, but, I think things are much bigger than that. But, to make a long story short, think of it this way:

One of the ways that girl, back in the bad old days, could emotionally escalate was by preparing a nutritious and satisfying meal for a man that might be living in squalor (he is not poor, just a man with other priorities than keeping his place clean and peeling potatoes).

And, this was a very socially acceptable way for a girl to satisfy a man’s basic and primal needs and no one would call her a whore for doing so.

38J August 9, 2012 at 6:12 pm
I can recall having difficulty with this hurdle myself. And it didn’t help when I met my husband’s ex while exiting the hardware store, no makeup, carrying a mop and bucket. Meanwhile, she of the “confused sexuality” was in tight jeans and a leather bomber jacket looking sleek.

Meh. It happens to the best of us. We have our good days and our bad. Besides, at this point in her life, she may be sporting a buzzcut and a football jersey. And, if not, you’re still the woman he chose.

OTOH, DH’s favorite joke is that he’s going to buy a boat one day and call it the Lori C. after an ex.

39The Private Man August 9, 2012 at 6:13 pm
The first item on the list should be “Know that he is the gatekeeper to commitment and that he can rescind that commitment at any time and for any reason. It is your supremely rewarding pleasure to maintain his desire and motivation to keep that commitment.”