How to Let a Man Know You’re Interested
Tough Call: Sex Before Commitment?
In Combat Dating, You Can’t Afford to Fight Like a Girl
Friends With Penalties
The Matrix of Modern Relationships
Old fwb or new shy boy?
The Real Reason Why Men and Women Can’t Be Friends
Is she into me?
Great advice there about pre-season training! I agree that a woman should bring her A game in the first place – look her best, have interests of her own, etc. For example, it’s much easier to give a bf considerable freedom to hang with his friends if she has friends of her own she wants to see. If she has her own interests, time apart can be productive and enjoyable for both parties. And it gives him a chance to crave her company again.
This doesn’t work if it is just an unsustainable act designed to lure the guy in. It has to be genuine.
Agreed. When I say “investigate his interests” I mean do the work necessary that you can share in it. You don’t have to love it, but the idea is to respect his interests and meet him halfway. If you don’t, you’re either going to attempt to hold him back from doing what he enjoys, or you’re going to be going along for the ride without any real interest. That may work in the early days, but the novelty wears off quickly.
D) Finding a way to credibly signal that you are a very, very low divorce risk.
I hadn’t been thinking in precisely those terms, but I do think these 25 items should go a long way toward accomplishing that.
Finding a way to credibly signal that you will not allow an LTR to suffer deterioration in sexual frequency or quality.
This is where “I can’t get enough of you” comes in. Assuming it is genuine, a woman helps herself a lot by letting him know this as much as possible.
Even if he is a classic low-N, harmless beta provider, tell him that he’s a badass and make him feel dangerous.
Interesting – how does one do this with a guy who is in fact not badass? Do all men really want to feel this way?
27Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 5:35 pm
In other words be the opposite of typical Western fembots.
Exactly.
28Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 5:37 pm
@Ramble
The reason I said that everyone should learn to cook is because of the average age at marriage. A guy who goes to college is not likely to marry before 30. That’s nine years after leaving school, and if he doesn’t live with his parents, he needs to prepare meals to eat healthily and economically.
Tough Call: Sex Before Commitment?
In Combat Dating, You Can’t Afford to Fight Like a Girl
Friends With Penalties
The Matrix of Modern Relationships
Old fwb or new shy boy?
The Real Reason Why Men and Women Can’t Be Friends
Is she into me?
Great advice there about pre-season training! I agree that a woman should bring her A game in the first place – look her best, have interests of her own, etc. For example, it’s much easier to give a bf considerable freedom to hang with his friends if she has friends of her own she wants to see. If she has her own interests, time apart can be productive and enjoyable for both parties. And it gives him a chance to crave her company again.
This doesn’t work if it is just an unsustainable act designed to lure the guy in. It has to be genuine.
Agreed. When I say “investigate his interests” I mean do the work necessary that you can share in it. You don’t have to love it, but the idea is to respect his interests and meet him halfway. If you don’t, you’re either going to attempt to hold him back from doing what he enjoys, or you’re going to be going along for the ride without any real interest. That may work in the early days, but the novelty wears off quickly.
D) Finding a way to credibly signal that you are a very, very low divorce risk.
I hadn’t been thinking in precisely those terms, but I do think these 25 items should go a long way toward accomplishing that.
Finding a way to credibly signal that you will not allow an LTR to suffer deterioration in sexual frequency or quality.
This is where “I can’t get enough of you” comes in. Assuming it is genuine, a woman helps herself a lot by letting him know this as much as possible.
Even if he is a classic low-N, harmless beta provider, tell him that he’s a badass and make him feel dangerous.
Interesting – how does one do this with a guy who is in fact not badass? Do all men really want to feel this way?
27Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 5:35 pm
In other words be the opposite of typical Western fembots.
Exactly.
28Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 5:37 pm
@Ramble
The reason I said that everyone should learn to cook is because of the average age at marriage. A guy who goes to college is not likely to marry before 30. That’s nine years after leaving school, and if he doesn’t live with his parents, he needs to prepare meals to eat healthily and economically.