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khan Says:
March 21st, 2010 at 4:39 pm
We have all been through or will be through. I am going through it right now. My girlfriend broke up with me 10 days ago. We were together for 6 months. The first three months we were all good except very few arguments and make ups. Then we moved in together, and problems started. We argued so much. The last month that led to the break up was specially hard. We fought almost everyday, over every mean and even in bed. She first refused making love to me. Well a typical guy, I tried hard to make her. The I took a job and moved to another state, 750 miles away, but I was so excited about the job and how this will help our relationship that I totally forgot about her emotions. When I went back two weeks later to visit, I had already lost her while we had talk during those two weeks. I argued with her over scheduling of the visit. Well, I drove back those miles, broken hearted, felt awful and regret every mistake. A few times I pushed her in getting back together. I forgot that women don’t accept reasons, they accept emotions. For them, the process of breaking up boils up for a long time and for us, it is BANG, and we realize what we have just lost. It has been 10 days now and I tried different ways. My problem is that I am not close, and that I want a distance relationship to work.

The one thing that we don’t realize is that we have broken their trust. Trust doesn’t only break by cheating, it can break emotionally. She told me that she can’t see us together in the future and that she loves me and she wants to be friends with me. Now here I am, away from everyone I know and everything I used to do and broken heart?

Over the past 10 days, including last night, I kept making the mistake of reasoning for why we are great together and how pathetic I am without her. But do you really want to be with a no fun pathetic man or woman? I have the strategy of low profile contact but still in some way proving to her that I care. I sent her a card a few days ago and I am sure she got it because she remembered the name of the place I live. But she didn’t say a word about it.

I will have a chance to meet her and hang out with her in person in May during college graduation. I am hoping that I can stay cool and give her the feeling that while I love her very much, I can still carry on with life.

Remember: when you meet your ex after a break up, don’t be the guy she broke up with, be the guy you were in the first date when all started. Don’t talk about relationship and where you two are in it. Make her laugh, crack nice jokes, pull the chair for her, act like this is the first time you are dating her. Even though as guys, we always go back to thinking of the time when were in a relationship in our first post-break up meeting, remember, you are not in a relationship anymore and for her trust to grow for you again that you have actually changed and that you improved as a person, you need time. I know it is killing, but let the healing power of time work its way. Feelings don’t go away, we just burry them and same is true about women. Every nice gesture and move, not obsessive though, will bring back a bit of those feelings. LUCKY are you if you are physically close. Good luck to me and every heartbroken friend here.