Submissive dating
Submission must be earned
Give me intensity or give me death!
Dating for a strong woman
Taking Sex Differences Seriously
Irreverent Look at the American Male
Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In Hand
Love is a decision

If an issue comes up, no matter how small,if I am unsure as to what to do, I know that I can just ask him and he will make the decision.

Just yesterday, the lightbulb in the garage burned out. Our garage has about a 20 foot ceiling and we do not have a ladder high enough to reach it so there are a number of ways we can handle this. Call maintenance, have his dad bring us a ladder this weekend or go buy a ladder. I can't personally change it even if we had a ladder, I am deathly afraid of heights. So I tell dh and he simply says, well, I'll put in a call to the office. That's it.

It just means that there are things I don't have to think about and, for us, it is what defines the role of HOH. He makes the rules, he makes the decisions, he delivers the consequences.

On a more pragmatic level, though, that particular authority or his role as HOH is not what it is about at all. It is all about connection and his presence. The idea of his authority to make the final decision is just a manifestation of that authority.

I am not sure if I am adding to my point, clarifying it or just saying the same thing over and over, LOL. I guess I will find out when I get your response. =)


"The moment that I looked into your eyes, you owned me."
-Kenny Chesney

by Otter on 2005 Sep 7 - 18:30 | reply to this comment
Submission is not a gift? to David
To say that a woman, acting in a manner that is entirely natural to her is somehow granting her man some special gift is fallacious.

Yes, a woman may be naturally submissive or she may not. I think the gift is the control of her life. By submitting to a man, a woman, whether she is "naturally submissive" or not, is giving him the power to make some decisions for her. She is giving him authority to decide what she will do, in some measure and she is agreeing to abide by his word. I think that is the gift.

No matter how submissive a woman is naturally, it is not easy to trust another person that much and to do that, to respect a man and trust him enough to be Taken In Hand by him, is a gift.