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All Rejections Are Not Created Equal

15megslife September 4, 2009 at 7:00 pm
I have to say I didn't really read through most of these post. I probably will eventually and have more to say, but I did just watch a fantastic movie called “Broken English”. There is a quote that I think describes the type of thing you are talking about here.

Jean Paul Clement: Most people are together just so they are not alone. But some people want magic. I think you are one of those people.

I think that a lot of people compromise and settle for something ok. It is hard to chose something better when something OK means you are safe and not alone. I am dealing with this right now. I know that I can't say that my sisters settled maybe they did find magic. I just can't imagine knowing at 23 that the person I'm with is going to be the right one. It is hard for me right now to not want to settle because it seems like everyone around me is marrying. I have come to the realization that I have high standards, but I have been noticing that sometimes I hide behind them. I've realized that I have to remember that I want the magic, but it doesn't come in a perfect package.

Also in realizing this I realized I was hiding behind thinking I found that magic with someone. It was a waste of my energy and I had so much energy wrapped up in that I was missing a lot of other chances. Life happens and you need to be ready to maybe change your standards. I'm ranting now.

16susanawalsh September 7, 2009 at 1:00 pm
That's a great quote! I'll have to watch that movie. You make a very good point – sometimes people find the magic, but it doesn't last, and what replaces it is not enough to sustain a relationship. Throughout history, marriages have often been arranged, and I'm sure many of those marriages were “happy” or “successful.” In our era, we want it all: the love, the magic, and the compatibility. And yes, sometimes we focus on one to the detriment of the others. In the end, I think we just trust our gut instincts and hope that we know when it's right. We blow it, miss other chances, but then we learn something, are a little wiser, and venture forth to do it some more.

17susanawalsh September 7, 2009 at 7:00 pm