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I find it fascinating to hear the "Double Standard" phrase used quite frequently and incorrectly. Men are not simply women who misbehave. It is like expecting a man to behave like a woman and likewise have a woman behave like a man. It is like comparing apples to oranges and implying that the apples are inferior simply because they do not have the same characteristics as the orange. Women seek certain things in their men, which are not good or bad, it is simply the way things are... Yet men seek things that often contrast in what women seek. So this is the explanation... In comparing apples with apples... women with women... there are certain things that men look for... Primarily beauty. This is both inner and outer beauty. Think about it? At a wedding do they say, "What a beautiful groom he is and look, she is so successful as an attorney... they make a wonderful couple." The entire concept is laughable. Personally, I think past performance is indicative of future expectations. Every company knows this... banks know this... and lets be honest... men and women know this also. We all try to ascertain the unknown based upon what is known. Project a future together based upon their past. The tolerance or concern levels may differ between gender, however they are still present. Once a cheater always a cheater. Someone who is an alcoholic today is expected to continue being an alcoholic tomorrow. Someone who wears cologne, dresses sharp today is somehow expected to be that way in the future. Job interviews are notorious for checking a person's past performance. Having said that, I would conclude that promiscuity is really not an issue for me personally. I have been with one woman for 24 years. I got a divorce three years ago and I in no wise expect the women I date to have only been with one man. The amount is NOT important (to me). What is important is the ethics involved. Casual... Cheating... sleeping with married men... Dating three guys and sleeping with each of them (Not at the same time, of course). Expecting a man to be exclusive with them yet they themselves are by no means exclusive. I guess it is the ethics involved and how many people or marriages were hurt or devasted in the wake of what they considered "innocent fun". This is not a double standard for ethical treatment of other people is just as applicable for men. And yes, there are quite a few men who also display a lack of respect, contempt and dispassionate regards for the opposite gender. Shame on us all...

Shani July 30, 2011 at 4:06 am Reply