How to Let a Man Know You’re Interested
Tough Call: Sex Before Commitment?
In Combat Dating, You Can’t Afford to Fight Like a Girl
Friends With Penalties
The Matrix of Modern Relationships
Old fwb or new shy boy?
The Real Reason Why Men and Women Can’t Be Friends
Is she into me?

I didn’t address any aspects of personal appearance in this post. This is about behaviors – the way a woman conducts herself in a relationship.

9Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 4:41 pm

I like your quirky quibble quips.

10Susan Walsh August 9, 2012 at 4:47 pm
@Han Solo

Thanks for all that great input!

I can understand that you might be assuming in this post that the couple in question have been out a couple of times and that the man finds her physically attractive enough. If he does find her physically attractive enough then this list is where his focus will now be

Yes, that was my assumption, but you guys should feel free to ask for the world! :)

11Bastiat Blogger August 9, 2012 at 4:48 pm
Great list, Susan.

I’ll add a few random thoughts…

1. Pre-season preparation is key. Before trying to get into an LTR, the woman should be:

A) Raising SMV as high as possible. Look at what men really like when it comes to spending $ on sexual entertainment, not necessary what they claim that they like when women ask them. It will have some provocative elements and other women may actually attempt to sabotage some of these things and tell you why you don’t need them.

B) Finding an outside emotional outlet/punching bag that she can regularly dump the emotionally toxic “bad stuff” on, thus freeing her to consistently bring her A-game to her LTR partner. It’s a bit like playing a team sport—your teammate deserves your best performance, other people just don’t. *

*this one may be very hard for chronically negative affect/neurotics, because they may seek vampire-type arrangements with more stable personalities and then really unload on them.

C) Finding some common guy interest/hobby areas that you actually do enjoy doing, that won’t require a sacrifice. Obviously the more of these you naturally have the easier it will be to find points of commonality, but the pre-season can be the time to experiment with different things and find the ones that you genuinely like.