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Judging a Man By the Company He Keeps
Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like
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Your Cheatin’ DRD4 Gene Mutation
The Hidden Cost of Keeping Sex Casual
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“If she finds the right man, but puts him in her current frame… if she takes the finest wine and fills her broken jar with it… its going to be depleted anyway.”
Yohami has hit on the most important part of this post. It isn’t enough to simply turn from hooking up. She has to ingest the rest of the red pill. She has to accept the realities of the current SMP and any possible consequences of her actions. I hope she does. Feminism and especially sex positive feminism is decidedly at odds with what we discuss here.
And Susan, I appreciate your reply to GudEnuf so I don’t want to come down too hard here. But it bears repeating that neither Steph nor anyone else is entitled to “the sort of relationship [she wants]” simply because she’s reformed away from the hookup culture. She’ll have to avoid not only hooking up, but the rest of the toxic influences of feminism as well.
22Ceer September 20, 2011 at 5:11 pm
Understanding the basic emptiness of hookup culture is a first step to a lot of people who haven’t been taught anything else. Another crucial step for long term happiness is the realization of both types of female emotional pull. Women have the quick emotional jolt of the cad/jerk/alpha as well as the loving stability of the dad/herb/beta. Both qualities are required for real long lasting happiness. Most men in this society are raised as betas, a few are born alphas. Almost none have both traits. Aside from conscious effort to change, I’m not even sure it is possible to have both.
I’d think of it as a self-improvement project or journey that two people take together, rather than a take the best apple out of the pile task.
23Abbot September 20, 2011 at 5:12 pm
However, having a LTR and finding a committed guy isnt going to fix her either. So I hope she looks deeper.
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Like what went wrong with her parents and her childhood?
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24Abbot September 20, 2011 at 5:17 pm
Understanding the basic emptiness of hookup culture is a first step to a lot of people who haven’t been taught anything else.
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If the parents are not filling this role, why can’t the schools provide this understanding?
25Stingray September 20, 2011 at 5:34 pm
Aside from conscious effort to change, I’m not even sure it is possible to have both.
Judging a Man By the Company He Keeps
Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like
Use Business Strategy to Improve Your Dating Life
Your Cheatin’ DRD4 Gene Mutation
The Hidden Cost of Keeping Sex Casual
Sign Me Up for Male Studies
Eleven Key Insights From the Men of Hooking Up Smart
“If she finds the right man, but puts him in her current frame… if she takes the finest wine and fills her broken jar with it… its going to be depleted anyway.”
Yohami has hit on the most important part of this post. It isn’t enough to simply turn from hooking up. She has to ingest the rest of the red pill. She has to accept the realities of the current SMP and any possible consequences of her actions. I hope she does. Feminism and especially sex positive feminism is decidedly at odds with what we discuss here.
And Susan, I appreciate your reply to GudEnuf so I don’t want to come down too hard here. But it bears repeating that neither Steph nor anyone else is entitled to “the sort of relationship [she wants]” simply because she’s reformed away from the hookup culture. She’ll have to avoid not only hooking up, but the rest of the toxic influences of feminism as well.
22Ceer September 20, 2011 at 5:11 pm
Understanding the basic emptiness of hookup culture is a first step to a lot of people who haven’t been taught anything else. Another crucial step for long term happiness is the realization of both types of female emotional pull. Women have the quick emotional jolt of the cad/jerk/alpha as well as the loving stability of the dad/herb/beta. Both qualities are required for real long lasting happiness. Most men in this society are raised as betas, a few are born alphas. Almost none have both traits. Aside from conscious effort to change, I’m not even sure it is possible to have both.
I’d think of it as a self-improvement project or journey that two people take together, rather than a take the best apple out of the pile task.
23Abbot September 20, 2011 at 5:12 pm
However, having a LTR and finding a committed guy isnt going to fix her either. So I hope she looks deeper.
.
Like what went wrong with her parents and her childhood?
.
24Abbot September 20, 2011 at 5:17 pm
Understanding the basic emptiness of hookup culture is a first step to a lot of people who haven’t been taught anything else.
.
If the parents are not filling this role, why can’t the schools provide this understanding?
25Stingray September 20, 2011 at 5:34 pm
Aside from conscious effort to change, I’m not even sure it is possible to have both.